If you let go a little, you will have little piece. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace. By Ajahn Chah
I recently read a post from Tiny Buddha on letting go.
This has inspired me to write today’s post on letting go as I realise that sometimes despite how much we want something we end up feeling overpowered, confused and mentally blocked. We have to take a step back, relax and let it come to us…whatever this ‘it’ maybe. The above quote speaks volumes as sometimes our inability to let go causes us a lot of distress. This can be extremely distracting, stressful and takes up a lot of headspace when we can use it on something else. Our burden can come from anything, from something as deep as a past event or something so simple such as quitting an exercise class when you’ve built up loyalty, it just becomes hard to just stop going.
I personally have a lot going on which stops me from being able to devote as much time as I like to blogging. I attend classes in the evening AND work long hours. I have been loyal customer to a club that I have been attending for a few years but I feel that I want to use my time better in the evenings. It was hard to let go as I have gotten to know my instructor and the ladies in class, I worried about missing out on learning new things and as spaces are limited, if I leave and want to go back I won’t be able to and will have to wait my turn.
Leaving the club is easier said than done but what helped was taking a deep SWOT analysis (see below) to the classes and figured out that in a class:
- I couldn’t do what I wanted to do if there wasn’t a consensus
- The teacher spent very little time with me to perfect my learning as they were spread thin across other students
- I wasn’t getting value for money
- My time wasn’t very well spent
In the end I left and asked for privates which is up to my flexibility and time allowances. It is more expensive but the one to one time makes up for it all and further more I get to learn what I want and spend my evenings focussing on my blogging activities.
I have come up with some steps that are designed to help you to really let go of your demons and allow your mind and effort to focus on what really matters.
6 steps to truly let go and realise our potential
Be Present – If you have read Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now, he teaches the importance of being present and in this sense being mindful. We spend far too much time living in the past, replaying history over and over or worrying about a future event that hasn’t or may not even happen. If we remain present and focus on the now and what is happening around us we can see that yesterday’s and tomorrow’s problem with no more.
Cry – Don’t be afraid to cry, we tend to feel better after we have let out some tears. According to studies, it has been shown crying causes the release of endorphins that is our body’s natural pain killer. Result is we feel better.
Do a SWOT analysis – A strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threat analysis helps us to analyse our situation and dissect it to identify the pros and cons of doing something. Does the pros of letting go of something outweigh the cons, are there hidden opportunities?
Take an outsider’s perspective – Put yourself into the shoes of your friend or family member. What would they say about your situation? How would they advise you? Sometimes taking on an outsider’s perspective can help you to reveal your true desires.
Be aware of your thoughts – Sometimes our mind catastrophes a situation we go through. Be aware that when you are coming up to something stressful, ground yourself and change your thoughts to something else or imagine back to a time where you last felt relaxed.
Talk to others – Other people’s perspective can offer a lot of value. This is because other people see things differently, have more knowledge than you and can point out what your mistakes are.
What are your tips for letting go? Have you had to deal with situations and events that just play on your mind? I would love to hear your thoughts and ideas.
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